Talked to mom about an hour ago. Sounds a little better than she did last night at 8:30. Had a good night, but dad couldn't make it to the bathroom this morning. He didn't resist getting in the shower, but had no idea how to turn on the shower, much less what to do. He was in his usual place when I called, dozing. She said she still can't stop thinking about how he will react when he is taken to Chancellor. This is driving her absolutely crazy. Told her we don't really know, and it's going to depend on how he is that day. He may not put up a fuss at all, or he may really be upset. Encouraged her to try not to dwell on this, because it's an unknown. I know it's hard, but let's take things one day at a time. The day to start worrying about this, is the day we take him there. She is trying, but having a difficult time.
She made cookies last night. Knowing that many of us are emotional eaters, I asked her if she ate all of them. (I certainly would have, in her shoes!) She laughed a little, said she thought about it. She sure appreciated everyone's calls yesterday. Talked with all of us kids, and Anali called, as well. I think the more we can call and support during this time will really go a long way. She said this morning how grateful she was for her family. Doesn't know what she would do without everyone. Come to think of it, I pretty much feel the same way.
Still planning on going up Thursday, to get some things started, tie up some paperwork. Fred is going to hang out with dad while mom and I get some stuff done. That's going to be a big step - fillingout paperwork and putting down the deposit.
**12:30 MST. Just spoke with Tammy at Chancellor. Mom and I will meet with her at 1:30 on Thursday, to fill out some paperwork and get on the waiting list. As of today, there are 3 people on the waiting list, but that changes. And, if those 3 people above dad are called and not ready, they go to the next person. Asked Tammy about how to explain to dad. She said in most cases, the family brings the patient in, and tells them the doctor thought it would be a good idea for them to stay here for a couple of weeks to see how they do. She stressed, as did Mary and Abby on Saturday, that it is not a good idea to try and explain anything further or beforehand. This usually results in agitation at that time, and then the patient forgets by the time admittance comes around. Will have to continue to stress this with mom. I think she feels like she needs to say something now.
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