We had the parents over this afternoon for dinner. Mom wanted to drive over, so I didn't go pick them up. They came over a little while before dinner was ready. That's good, because dad was able to get a nap in before eating. Dad ate well. He couldn't finish his roll though, but everything else was gone. He seemed very confused today, but not overly agitated. Mom was happy to get out of the house and have someone else cook. Of course she ate with much gusto. After dinner, they both fell asleep. Mom was resting her head on dads shoulder. I'm not sure if she meant to do that. She does sleep in some weird positions sometimes. It was kinda neat to see that though. Dad kept waking up and elbowing her. I don't think he liked it. He would go right back to sleep. They stayed for about 4 hrs. Mom called when they got home.
Debbie said that mom told her today that she was ready for dad to be gone. She said it pretty bluntly I guess. It kinda surprised Deb, but I can understand. I think this last week with Lisa there taking care of dad, mom felt at ease. The last two days she has had to do it, and I think it just brings it all into perspective; she can't do this anymore. She told me yesterday that she is looking forward to being able to come and go as she pleases. She feels guilty I know, but she is also seeing that her time as a caregiver is coming to an end, and I think she feels some relief as well. It will be a difficult week for her I think. I'm so glad that we have the family ties that we do. Mom is really going to need that support the next few weeks.
I forgot to mention that I spoke with David last night, telling him everything that is going on and what will be happening in the next week. I will keep him updated throughout the week, but one of you other sibs needs to keep him updated the following week cuz I won't be able to. I'll be checking the blog and you can always email. If there are any emergencies let Deb know please. Thanks guys.
Yeah, I talked to mom several times over the weekend, and even though next week is going to be rough, she is ready. I feel guilty, so I can imagine how guilty she feels, as his spouse.
ReplyDeleteI will keep Deb and David posted on everything, no problems. Both Trent and Ann are going to stay for a few days, and I can take more time off toward the end of the next week, if needed. I think the first couple of nights are going to be tough for mom, naturally.
Mom and I meet get all the paperwork done tomorrow, and ask any questions of Chancellor. We will put a game plan together of the best time to bring dad down next Monday. Sat and Sun will be the days we move in the furniture, and make sure all the personal items and clothes are in place. I will keep everyone posted after the day tomorrow.
I can keep Dad up to date as well, at least with what is posted here. I talked to Gramma last week, and she also told me she was ready and admitted that she just can't take care of him the way he needs. I was glad to hear her tell me that, since she doesn't talk to me as often, I think it's sometimes hard for her to talk about the unpleasant things. I'm trying to call more often.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, I'm following the updates here closely, and I'll make sure Dad knows what's going on. I know you have a lot to take care of this week!
Thanks, Anali! I will make sure I update the blog with all details, as we move forward. Tell your dad hi, and I WILL call him this week.
ReplyDeleteShirl called me outta the blue last night after she got home from Eric's. She wanted to know when I was coming down and just say hi. She was in a good mood and sounded positive about everything. She expressed how grateful she is to have her family helping out so much to deal with this stuff. She said she will be glad that Pop can get the proper care he needs, but is feeling guilty of course. Told her that was natural and she is not alone, but we all know it is the right thing. I think it helps her to keep being reassured, and reassuring herself, about these actions being the right thing to do. I bet she will be a different person once the pressure is off from babysitting 24 hours a day. She can finally get some good sleep and enjoy her life a little better. Everyone please let me know if you need me to do anything else, or even come down Saturday. I am older and chubbier but still flexible! Ha!
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