Update, August 11th

This past week, dad has declined quite a bit.    The last 3 days have been especially difficult.   He doesn't want to eat, all he does is sleep, and when he is awake, won't come out of his room.   Today, Sunday, he did get up and get dressed.   Has eaten all 3 meals, although when I spoke with the aide this morning, he had to rest for about 15 minutes when he was about half way down the hall to breakfast.  Dad's room is at the very end of the hallway, and it's quite a clip.   He has qualified for hospice, so I am calling the doctor tomorrow, to see how to get him signed up for this.   This will mean that someone will be with him more, and make sure he is comfortable, and help with his needs.  Chancellor is not set up for 1 on 1 nursing, and he is at a point where he needs to have a little more care.   It is tough to see him decline, especially when we all know he would rather be done with all of this.  I do wish he would go soon, so he can be Charlie again.   We don't get to make that choice, though.  We can just hope that he isn't in a lot of pain or discomfort.
*****Just talked to Eric this evening, and they went and saw dad.  He ate good today, but was very disoriented and combative.   Eric was helping the aide get him ready for bed, and dad was swinging at both of them.  Telling him he was going to smack him.  It was tough for Eric.

Mom goes to the doctor tomorrow to get her arm checked out.  She is ready to go home, and once we get the ok for the doc, we will get things set up for her to get back home.   There is a lady from the ward who will help mom, and the relief society will have meals brought in, and also take her down to see dad.   Just as mom fell, she was getting used to being alone.   Although she says she will be fine, we do wonder if it will be more difficult for her mentally - she is used to having more people around now.  However, she has to at least try living alone.  I think the anesthesia has done a number on her - she is so much more forgetful and confused since her surgery.  I've been told this is common, especially in people her age, so we will have to wait and see if clears up somewhat.