Talked to mom last night. Guess when she went down to dad's yesterday, he got really agitated. I know Eric and fam were with him before mom got there, and he slept most of the time. When mom got there, he was asleep on his couch, so she sat there for a bit. He started stirring, and when he woke up, they walked up the hall to the big room. There was a basketball game on, and they watched that, then dad fell asleep. The med tech came over and tried to wake him, because it was time to take his meds, but they couldn't get him to wake up. They let him sleep for a little while. After some time, the aide came over and tried to wake him, because it was time to go to the bathroom. Dad did wake up, but was pretty disoriented. They let him sit there and get awake, but when she asked him to follow her to the bathroom, he started clapping his hands and yelling at her. Something about he was "going to kill all of you". Mom said she handled it really well, asked him if he wanted to go into the bathroom by himself, and he said yes. After a few minutes, she opened the door to check on him and he was just standing there staring at the door. She gently rubbed his arm and he grabbed it and brushed her off, and started yelling again. So, she suggested he come out and sit in the chair. He did, but was very agitated. Mom did walk over, but let the aides take care of it. Dad was totally oblivious to her, and sat in the chair. Given his agitation, she decided it would best for her to leave. As she left, he was yelling at the tv about the basketball game.
I think she was a little down about him. Guess he has gotten this way a few times before with the aides. I think she was embarrassed, and said, "He shouldn't do that there." Reminded her that he got like this at home, and this is part of the reason he is there. It's not like he is a guest, and we shouldn't be embarrassed, it's part of the disease. She agreed, but I can see where it affected her a little bit. It is hard to go there, and see this. She was OK after we talked awhile, but I could tell it was tough. She is going down this morning to go to church, then will eat lunch with him, if he is not agitated. The boys and I will go see him afterwards, then head up to mom's. More later.
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4:30 pm
We headed up north this afternoon. Mom was just leaving dad's place when we got there. She had gone to church with him and stayed for lunch. Said he was in a good mood, no yelling or agitation. Still really tired. We went down to his room and he was out like a light on his couch. I rubbed his arm a few times and gave him a hug. He kind of mumbled, but just couldn't come around. We hung out for about a 1/2 hour, and then took off. We said good bye to him, told him we loved him. He half way smiled, and I told him to go back to sleep, that we'd come back another time. He said OK, and smiled again, then was out.
Headed up to mom's and hung out there for awhile. Mom got a letter from the insurance company yesterday, indicating dad is eligible for benefits on the 91st day of. They will contact Chancellor directly and make the arrangements. This is good!! I didn't think they would deny the claim, but you just never know with these kinds of things. Mom has her new furniture in, and she is pretty excited. We stayed about 1 1/2 hours, and she was disappointed when we left. Told her that Chad and I will come up on Saturday, and we'll go to lunch. We will also see her Friday night, Rick and Lori are picking her up to come down to Bry's play.
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