Friday, December 21, 2012
Quiet Fri Evening
I called Shirl about 7:30 tonight. She didnt answer the phone for several rings and I thought She might be asleep again. Said she was in the kitchen, and insisted she was not asleep. She said they had a pretty good day today. Pop was nice, in a good mood all day, and was dozing in the chair right now. She was in a good mood and actually sounded way more up beat than the last couple of times I talked to here. Told her we were going to Trader Joes next week and invited her to come along. She said it depends on how Charles is doing, and we talked about baby sitters for him. She told me about Dean & Bill watching him while she does stuff. I did find out that Bill is not working, and she helps him with money every month. To the tune of around 400.00 to help pay his rent. I am not very happy about that,,, but,, Her money, her Brother, her choice. She says if she didnt do that, he would have no choice but to live with them, so she would rather help him with that than have no visitors because of him being there. I reckon since she helps him survive, he should be happy aboiut helping her with him when she needs a break. Just some random thoughts.
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ya, the Bill thing. What a loser. I wonder if he thinks that some day he might be able to move in with her, when she's alone. Mom says no, that will never happen. I told her better not. I wonder about this situation, what will B. do when mom is gone? She was worrying about what to get him for xmas and I told her just give him money, that's what he wants anyway. Those are my random thoughts.
ReplyDeleteI love Trader Joes. They have the best creme cookies. They come in a package that opens from the top and different kinds of creme cookies. Someday I will go there.
ReplyDeleteYeah, the Bill thing is an issue. Actually, she used to give him more, but Eric and I talked her into reducing her help last summer. He should have no problem helping her, given the entire situation. But, what will he expect in return? I know he is her only living relative, and I may feel the same way in her place, but it is still frustrating. I bring this subject up to her, but I choose when the time is right. Which is, when we are talking about money. There will be more discussion. I talked to her last night, as well, and things were quiet. That's been the pattern...a few good days, then it goes south for 3 or 4 days.
ReplyDeleteMommy Ann, Trent or I will get you some of yer cookies.
ReplyDeleteI am sure he would like the chance for free room and board if C goes to a care place to live. I also think he would like a crack at Shirls $funds since he is the only other surviving member of her immediate family and prob feels like it is his right. I can see him playing and manipulating her emotions to take advantage of her and not having a clue about his motives. As you all prob know, I couldnt care less about Shirls money except for it to be used for what is right and neccessary, but if he does anything to take advantage or do something underhanded, I will make the remainder of his pathetic life a living hell, just on principle alone,,,and he can take that to the bank. I have the ways and means and motivation to do it. Legally of course. ;)
ReplyDeleteCelia,,do we need to look at how the funds can be handled with and without certain signatures?,,,Meaning yours and Shirls, or just Shirls, or just yours, or what? Do you have the needed powers of attorney? I cannot go along with that slimeball having access to anything more of Chuck & Shirls estate than he is already siphoning off.
Just more random thoughts.
Hmmm...All this bill crap is new to me,,, but I understand why. Sounds like you are on top of it, and that is a good thing and I appreciate that. Please keep me informed and I promise I will maintain cool & calm thoughts!
ReplyDeleteYes Ann,,,send ms a list of what you want from TJ and I will be happy to get you supplied!
By the way, Celia,,, my first reply above was being written while you posted yours. Just puttin' time frames into perspective.
ReplyDeleteI for one, will make sure that Bill gets nothing unless mom says different. That is her choice. Like Celia said, her brother, her money. Personally, I don't beleive Bill will try anything. He's knows we're all too close, and on top of everything. I know this Bill thing is hard. Just keep in mind, we need to respect mom's wishes on this.
ReplyDeleteUmmm... That was me that stated her brother, her money, so I am well aware it is her choice. My point being, regardless of her wishes, if he pulls a stunt that is not right, or takes advantage of Shirl's situation, we do not have to treat it lightly. I assure you I will not. He is very scared of me, and for a good reason. I am sure he remembers a few things I "appraised" him of a few years ago. He cannot and will not be trusted or coddled,,regardless.
ReplyDeleteI agree Trent. No coddling allowed. As long as we stay on top of things, I'm not worried about it. I don't trust him either. I just want to make sure we keep in mind mom's point of view and her situation as it pertains to Bill. I'm with you Bro.
DeleteThanks..But I really struggle with Mom's point of view and dont understand it. It just seems like it should be way different than it is. Know what I mean?
ReplyDeleteI really do think mom gets your point of view, Trent. It's just that she is in a tough situation right now, with dad, probably feels very overwhelmed, and will take any help that is offered. That being said, we will keep a close eye on things, as mom is very trusting. I have heard her speak to Bill on the phone, and it wasn't pleasant - for him! We will keep a close on things, and keep you posted. We all love and support you, so try not to let this this gnaw at you.
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